That’s what she said? Really?

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We’ve all heard it. Lurking just around the corner ready to attack at any moment, though it seems like it comes out of nowhere. An innocent conversation is suddenly hijacked by the selfish desire of comical praise sending the minds of those around them to dark places.


I have a sense of humor. I can take a joke. Seriously. I even like to offer up my own cheap wit from time to time.

But “that’s what she said”? Really? Sometimes the fact that “it’s a joke” still doesn’t make it okay.
I expect to hear this phrase from some people, but my frustration is in hearing this from people I actually expect not to hear it from. Those where I feel like I should be safe from the attacks of this Michael Scott one-liner. Funny or not, I strongly believe that this manner of sexual humor is lethal to the spiritual growth of God’s children and should be zealously avoided.

In a culture where everything is sexual, why make it more difficult for ourselves?

One of the most common struggles of Christians is that of sexual purity. Especially in young men. Whether it be in their physical relationships with females or in their use of pornography, sexual impurity seems to trample freely on their lives. Our culture does not make this easy. I know from first hand experience that it is impossible to go to school, participate on sports teams, watch TV & movies, and hang out with your friends without being exposed to sex in some form. Usually this form is an unhealthy and sinful representation of what God ordained as good, often making it very difficult for youth to deal with properly. So my question is why should we make it more difficult on ourselves and our friends around us by joking about a very serious problem and threat to our relationships with God?

“Be imitators of God, as beloved children” – Eph 5:1

My thoughts on “that’s what she said” also apply to other harsh and inappropriate joking. “But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints. Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving.” – Ephesians 5: 3 & 4

If we are to be imitators of God, we need to take Him at His Word and trust that He has our best interests in mind. Instead of championing around the newest form of sexual humor, we ought to carry an attitude of encouragement, thanksgiving, and dignity.

I realize some of you may not agree or think I’m being too harsh and legalistic since I’ve received push back in expressing these thoughts in the past. But please view my words and encouragement on this topic in light of Titus 2 and 1 Timothy 3 where we, as Christians, and especially those in leadership roles, are called to be “above reproach,” “self-controlled,” “showing integrity,” and with “sound speech.”

I’m convicted that we need to stop playing with fire and start fighting against the little ways Satan tries to compromise our purity and Christ-likeness. Will you fight with me?

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